My wife and I use a microwavable mask with spray, which frees up the eye glands quite well. Was recommended by our optometrist.
Look into “Bruder Hygienic Eyelid Care Kit.” It literally melts the oil out of your clogged gland, at a gentle temperature.
Mine is usb driven, slightly mositoned cloth, 3-4 times a day, usually works, not this time. Infection set in. And it didn’t help it was a holiday weekend. ER’s are not equipped to handle GI or this type eye issue.