Isn't that a decision for the FAMILY?
Yes - and in the current political climate (with Covid being cited as a justification for severely limiting our civil liberties, and with anecdotal evidence and individual newspaper obits being used to rhetorically manipulate public opinion and buttress such restrictions), it would be my decision to label that family as *ssholes for "discreetly" omitting that vital info from the obit.
Like in the 80s, when some famous suspected homosexual would die in his 40s, and the obits would "dance around" the Cause of Death instead of coming right out and saying: AIDS. Disgusting!
Regards,