I had a female employee who was sleeping with a guy from another department. There was nothing against company policy—but it was pretty obvious. And...she was married.
I told her that if I could figure it out, her husband—who was paying a lot more attention—could figure it out.
About a month later it came crashing down on her. I asked how her husband figured it out. She told me the boyfriend had sent her a cute little note. She read it and put it in her coin purse, not even thinking about it.
The next weekend they were at her kids hockey game. Hubby wanted a soda and didn’t have the change. She told him to grab it out of her purse. He pulled out a quarter...and the cute note.
The moral of the story is when you are constantly lying, it becomes difficult to keep the lies straight and cover all of your tracks. You WILL screw up.
I could never stand the pressure. Not worth five minutes of excitement.
Yup, almost the same as a personal experience. Married guy working for me had office romance with lady in other department who was also married. I pointed out two things to him. First off, she was married to a guy whom he categorized as a nut. I said I hope you can draw fast when he comes in here some day and starts firing. That did not get through to him so I gave him second point of info. Consider your 750K house. Consider it and half your pension there with you not in it. That did it, it ended.
BUT...lady was also a nut. She began writing letters to his wife about their trysts. His wife must have emasculated him because he was never the same after all blew over. Went from Mr. Don Juan to Mr. Whimp.