You know what speaks volumes to a woman?
Helping with chores around the house, ESPECIALLY the dishes.
Now, it’s not that she can’t do it. But what it tells her is that you notice the amount of work and effort that she’s putting in and appreciate it.
Or vacuum. Or pick up your own dirty laundry. It’s little stuff like that the shows you recognize what she does and the work it takes to do it.Women don’t like being taken for granted any more than men do.
And to women, I would adamantly say, when he does it, if he misses a spot, deal with it later but don’t say anything to him but thank you. You can always take care of the little bit that wasn’t done just right later.
My variation on that rule is that when my wife does something minor around the house that I don’t like, I don’t get angry with her.
I just try to make it impossible for her to make the same mistake again.
(In most cases that is doable.)
;-)
I came up with the agreement that we would share the chores. I do half and she do half, alternating between the chores.
After the marriage, I did all of the chores (and cooking) while she went out and cheated.