As father of the groom, I get off rather cheaply. I'm paying for the rehearsal dinner and contributing to the honeymoon. But it will be a $40,000 wedding when all is said and done. Crazy.
We paid a little under $16K for our daughter .... included putting up some hotel rooms for family.... my husband worked for the resort. Yes you are right it should have run $36K or more, but paid at cost.