When I divorced my husband, I let him have the house, asking for the minimal amount of child support (my lawyer thought I was nuts), and took nothing but a table and chairs, a couple of upholstered chairs, my piano, and my personal effects. By law, I got half his pension, at that time, NOT future earnings. I wasn’t trying to ruin him; I just wanted away from him. I don’t believe in being vindictive. I know some people are.
When my daughter was divorced (her husband turned out to be a womanizing alcohol and drug abuser), SHE had to pay HIM $3,000 a month for a year - he didn’t have a job, because he didn’t want to be a drug rep anymore - plus pay back the money HIS parents had lent THEM, for a down payment for a house. He is as uncooperative as possible concerning shared custody of their child, and runs her down to the child whenever he’s with him. She works from home, and travels a great deal, as part of her job, so their custody agreement stipulates what days of the week he has the child, so she can plan work trips around that schedule. If she has to take an extended trip, he refuses to “babysit” his own child for an extra day or two, and she has to hire a nanny, or I have to travel 700 miles, to stay with him, even though her ex lives with his parents, who would be happy to have their grandchild stay an extra day or two.
Not all divorcées are evil, and not all men are victims in divorces.
post # 33 - you say nothing about smell or odor. You are posting to the wrong thread.