He was essentially raped. I have small sympathy for someone Tindering like this - I call it fornication and I think it’s terrible - but sneaking a male bj on a straight guy is all out rape so don’t be surprised if you get beat up or killed. It’s a man you are raping not a woman. Men are strong and aggressive they don’t just take it like we do.
“The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim.”
So this is not rape, as the murderer consented. One may make an argument that the deception invalidates the consent and that may be what the defense lawyer will do. In my opinion both these men bear responsibility for creating the situation that they now find themselves in, one dead and one looking at prison time There are no good guys in this story and the murderer is not a victim. It's a stupid tragedy all the way around. All it takes is some integrity and a half-way functioning sense of morality to avoid such a situation.