Back in the day Alaskans would say: “Happiness is 10,000 Okies headed back south with a Texan under each arm.”
Please go back to where you and your wife came from and take some friends with you. I encourage it. This is not the place for you.
Enjoy your life and your family where you are all comfortable and wanted.
Have a great life in the Bay Area. It is calling you home.
It will be $2MM to buy a house or more.