It’s not a black widow or a brown recluse. Let it live.
I agree with your wife!
Got bit by a brown recluse a few years ago. Huge blister, necrotic tissue and now a big scar on my leg.
I know a guy that got bit by a brown recluse. He had a hole in his leg you could put a golf ball in.
I used to hate jumping spiders. Then I found out they are the only natural enemy of the Brown Recluse. I leave those suckers alone now.
Put some ASAP silver biotics gel on it. . . . I have had good results. Others have put the gel on scars after surgery and it certainly minimized it and often disappears. One doctor asked a friend what he put on his suture because it was almost healed on a return visit.
If you apply a portion of a nitroglycerin patch to the bite area (sooner the better) it prevents the vasoconstrictor portion of the venom from shutting circulation to the bite area and it disperses and gets processed through your body quickly without the necrotic rot hole developing.