Then stop right there, and don't lecture people who did.
No, but Jesus did; and as He hung there dying a torturous death, innocent of ANY wrongdoing, He said, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” I don’t know how I would be able to forgive someone who violently took the life of one of my children, and I pray I’ll never have to find out, but I DO know that I would HAVE to, because Jesus said, “If you do not forgive, my Father in Heaven cannot forgive you.” He said that for our good, and He would not have said it, if it were not possible.