She does have a house and she never seems to think of it but that is something I worry about. When she was there she somehow hurt herself, she may have fallen out of bed. She cannot hardly hear and she cannot hardly see, she is confused and told me twice she was 22 and 25 years old. She did not know who I was and did not recognize my brother who was over at her house nearly every other day. She couldn’t operate the microwave or the stove, could not figure out how to feed herself at all. She refused to come to my house for care when I saw she was all alone and not able to feed herself so my brother and I went to her house each taking the opposite day, cooking for her and taking care of her cat and dog. She finally consented to come to my house for a while till she was not hurt anymore (could hardly walk was in so much pain). She after 4 days said I promised she could go home but at that point she still could not walk back and forth to the bathroom, six feet from her bed so I told her she was injured. She has never brought up her home again and I don’t know if she wants to go home and doesn’t trust me or has no memory of it?
Maybe if you took her there and tried to fix her a dinner at her home, maybe take the dog with y’all? Just to see if it changes anything? That’s what I would try. I know my mom will never be able to leave her house, she would become a mule or terribly depressed.
You have my sympathy and prayers, you’re in a very difficult position and it must be unbearably painful. Hang in there and God bless.
If you think she had fallen and she is in pain trying to walk, she may have broken her hip. She needs to at least be evaluated for that either by her doctor or through the ER of your nearest hospital. She could be in agony and unable or unwilling to tell you that. Please at least rule it out.
I’ll be praying for her and you and your family.
She probably has no memory of her home...and could not take care of herself there anyway...make her like where she is with you, as others have said..sweets, foods she likes, experiences she likes...got photo albums? See if those make her happy....let her feed her dog...and as others have said...get help...she sounds like dementia has hit. If you had a good relationship with her you’ve been given a gift...altho it won’t seem so at times. Prayers for you.
Could you go to her home, and gather some of her belongings? Make up her room at your home, to look like her room at her home. Surround her with things she’s familiar with. It will be a big comfort to her, and probably help her feel less confused.