My feeling is that it started as an enterprising slave lady taking a derogatory term and completely turning it on its head and totally rocking it, which is beyond admirably sassy. I think it has moved on since then, though, and has turned into a phenomenon similar to bridezillas (who are queen for a day) only 24/7 365 days a year.
LOL! I think you’ve hit it, well!
You mean queen?