The “silver bullet strategy”. Accuse the husband of child abuse / spousal abuse. She gets:
* 100% custody of the kids
* permission to kick him out of the house
* a halt on evictions and foreclosures for 90 days
* free legal aid in the divorce
* extra money / support in many cases, citing said emotional harm
* the ability to ruin his reputation, in courts that do NOT use the guilty beyond a reason of a doubt standard
they use the lower preponderance of the evidence standard, and she has legal aid while he may not know the importance of fighting it
* in California, his entire pension, once found guilty, along with additional support
* priority for finding new housing on the government dime without him knowing where
You just described every action hub’s ex-shrew took.
Add: Alienate children from dad by poisoning their minds and trashing his character. Obstruct all parenting time/visitation with dad.
Immediately date every Tom, Dick and Harry, allowing them to have unfettered access to children and have said children call mom’s flav of the week “dad” while likewise punishing dad for moving on.