Those questions are the same my husband and I ask each other all the time!!
I've got no answers, and, fortunately or not, am not faced with the problem at this point in time.
Hey LS, I think all of this nonsense is going to end once we as a group, stop coming after our own, and decide to end it.
I agree with Grimmy when he wrote this:
And anytime someone tried to stand up against it, we tore them down because we didnt like the way they wore their eye glasses, or didnt like some minor insignificant thing about them, or just because.
This line needs a standing ovation. Thank you Grimmy.