I stopped talking to my psychotic mother, three years ago. There’s no way to contact him without getting her first. I miss him so much.
Not to diminish your story or pain, mention this to show understanding.
Every family has that unreasonable jerk.
If it comes to your predicamentnthennitnis horrible. My own family has has our own unreasonable jerk. She has worked her way through the family, destroying relationships between her and everyone.
I was the last holdout but when she mistreated pur mother while mom was dying of cancer...I cut off face to face communication.