Pissing on your ancestry? Come on...there’s got to be something else that honors all your generations of dead ancestors besides a flag representing 5 years of treason and failure.
No? Well, how about you take the same advice confederate flag wavers always give to black people who bring up slavery...get over it.
Those who fought for the Confederacy were incapable of committing treason against the United States of America as they were in fact citizens of the Confederate States of America at the time.
We know that the United States Congress considered this to be the case during the war as they admitted a new state to the union named West Virginia in June of 1863. West Virginia had seceded from the state of Viginia and declared itself a state. Article IV, Section Three of the U.S. Constitution states as follows...
Article IV, Section 3
1: New States may be admitted by the Congress into this Union; but no new State shall be formed or erected within the Jurisdiction of any other State; nor any State be formed by the Junction of two or more States, or Parts of States, without the Consent of the Legislatures of the States concerned as well as of the Congress.
Since Congress allowed the admission of West Virginia during the war, they could only have done so if they considered Virginia no longer a state within the union. This resulted with the soldiers fighting for the Confederacy being classified as foreigners and not citizens of the United States at that time. You can't call them traitors as it was impossible for them to commit treason against a foreign country.