My oldest son has a learning disability due to him being 12# at birth and I was in labor too long (it was Christmas eve and no one wanted to deal with it). He was born 12/26. Oxygen deprivation caused learning disability which we didn’t find out about disability until he was 5. Had him professionally tested due to complaints at daycare of him acting up, etc.
He had ADHD, oppositional defiance disorder as well as IQ of 69.
Anyways back then (39 years ago) they put him on Ritalin. It would work for a while at school but then wear off and he would get out of control. They hired another worker to walk him outside of the school to get him calmed down. Sometimes I would have to go get him. I worked with a behavior specialist as when he would act out- hit himself, throw things, I would have to sit on him for 10 min or so until he calmed down. He was in special ed classes all the way until he graduated from high school. Long story, many years of working with specialists and getting him the help needed, nearly destroyed our marriage and family. But we did it. He is doing well for the most part now. I gave him to the Lord throughout the years is the only way we all survived. I did eventually take him off Ritalin as he was like a zombie when on it.
This girl has obvious issues and hope she gets the help needed.
I agree, with your hope that this *family* gets help.
After 33 years of teaching, I have always thought that having a special needs child is as challenging as having a child who is truly talented or has a high IQ.
These special cases need *helicopter* parenting.
God Bless you and what you do for your son and family.