“I’ve never seen one about a man raping his wife. Why? Because it must be extremely rare.”
There you go again with the anecdotal evidence. Just because you aren’t aware of something doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.
“Further, the very statistic you referred to does not support your own position, as I already pointed out. You are asserting that 10% of husbands are FALSELY accused of rape. The statistics you mentioned assume that the accusations are true.”
The statistics don’t assume it’s true or false either way, they are simply the number of women who responded in the affirmative (in multiple independent studies) as to whether they had been raped by their spouses. Unless we are supposed to assume that rape is the one crime people never make false allegations about, then obviously some of those are false.
“No, I advised not participating in the hookup culture.”
Sorry, but your main point this whole time has been that being in a monogamous marriage is the best defense against false rape allegations, which you then admitted hasn’t actually been true for thirty odd years.
“For me, I’d rather end up in prison falsely accused of something than to accept this.”
Uh huh. Have you ever been falsely accused or been to prison? If not, you might want to refrain from making that kind of judgement.
“There you go again with the anecdotal evidence. Just because you aren’t aware of something doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.”
Same is true of the chupacabra. Anecdotal evidence is better than mis-cited statistics from highly-biased organizations.
“Unless we are supposed to assume that rape is the one crime people never make false allegations about, then obviously some of those are false.”
No, if there really were 10% being raped or even falsely alleging rape, we would see this translate into criminal charges. Where are the criminal charges? Without criminal charges then I’m not even sure what folks are complaining about here. I’ve been falsely accused of worse by an ex and her slimy mafia lawyer (who is currently in federal prison and disbarred, with my case being basically his last). Like I said before, almost no one is being charged with this crime. That’s not anecdotal.
“Sorry, but your main point this whole time has been that being in a monogamous marriage is the best defense against false rape allegations, which you then admitted hasn’t actually been true for thirty odd years.”
I didn’t say it supported “my main point” which is something you decided on my behalf. If you go back and look I’ve said the same thing from the beginning. By refusing to participate in the hookup culture, a man is very unlikely to experience such false allegations. If you cheapen sex by turning it into a commodity, then you are likely to end up in a relationship where your partner is more likely to act this way. Just because the laws have changed to match the popularity of the hookup culture does not mean you have to take part in it. That is true today just as much as thirty years ago.
“Have you ever been falsely accused or been to prison? If not, you might want to refrain from making that kind of judgement.”
Yes, I have been falsely accused in legal proceedings (though never charged). As I said above, it is the attorney who did this who is currently disbarred and in prison. I’ve only been to prison/jail as a visitor. Not somewhere I would like to live.
You may claim that you experienced this injustice even though you lived a squeaky clean life when it comes to how you’ve treated women sexually. It happened to Joseph in the Bible. He was sold into slavery and fled when his master’s wife tried to seduce him repeatedly. She falsely accused him of attempted rape and he went to prison for it. So, admittedly, honorable men can and are falsely accused of horrible crimes, but you have to ask yourself if this truly applies in your case. In Joseph’s case he relied on God to defend and rescue him, which is something that only happened after a long period of unjust suffering.
The guy that this article is about was not, by his own admission, living the morally clean life of Joseph. His defense is that the sex he had with a woman he was not married to was consensual. I could have sympathy for a man whose wife accused him of rape. I don’t have sympathy for men like the one this article is about. Regardless of whether he is guilty or innocent of the crime, it should be a warning not to play with fire or you might get burned.