My dad’s parents had their problems, but they were all-around wonderful people. NEVER said or did anything wrong to me or my sister.
Never knew my mom’s parents.
My parents though... hooooo boy. If you want a great example of how to ruin kids, or how not to raise kids, whichever expression you prefer, they’re a great example of that. It’s what I know and grew up with. I didn’t absorb any other relationships between two adults or parents and their children.
I’m taking what I feel is the only responsible route and not having children. I couldn’t bear to ruin someone’s life, especially someone that has done no wrong.
I truly understand.
Legacies, intended or not, material or not, flow down through the familial ties.
Positive legacies and even negative legacies can result in the making of great events or people.
They can also result in terrible actions.
I am more impressed with men and women who recognize they may not be suitable for parenthood and work to curtail actions that might/would create offspring.
I DO NOT MEAN ABORTION.
Folks who make hard choices about not parenting still can love their nieces and nephews. Well, until those nieces and nephews turn into teenagers.
LOL