No shared custody?
Technically, it was shared custody under the divorce decree. But I traveled at the time as part of my job. Did not make sense to me to uproot them every other week or month to come stay with me, so I felt it best for them just to live with their mom. They had gotten to the point where they were doing things with friends. Told them they could come stay with me any time they wanted to. They didn’t very much.
With age and better understanding of what their mother did, they gravitated back to me. But those years were tough on me. Now, they have a trust and confidence in me that their mother will probably never ever be able to regain.