Posted on 11/13/2019 6:00:47 PM PST by daniel1212
Wonderful! I was a premie 68 years ago, when premies weren’t handled or cuddled in the hospital. A few years ago, my mother, now deceased, told me that when she brought me home, I “wouldn’t let her hold me”, so she didn’t. I don’t remember my mother ever cuddling me. She was a seriously depressed person who was suicidal more than once when I was a child. I have no doubt that my “refusal” to be held, caused her, in her depressed state, emotional pain as well. I’ve always operated far below my potential, and suffered from depression. Of course, even before she told me that, I knew it was because of the way I was raised, but until she told me that, I didn’t know THAT part of it. Only God can fix bad parenting, and He’s still got a lot of work to do in me, even at my age.
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This makes a case for nurture in shaping behavior, and it makes the case that there is nothing wrong with recognizing that fact and actively trying to use that fact and shape behavior in the immature person.
When ANYONE says, in tersm of ANY behavior (ANY!!!), “I was born this way”, it is factually never true.
The inability to see the past acting on how a behavior was shaped is not evidence that the behavior is from birth. Not knowing the origins of something is not evidence that it was always there.
What I do is beyond any evidence based psychological or medical treatment. I study all the evidence based psychological treatments and test the results to determine exactly how they work and the extent that they result in temporary or permanent results. My work is spiritual.
(For example, of the 11 evidence based treatments for PTSD only 1 results in permanent healing, the other are temporary.. That one is psychotherapy, however it is also the most expensive due to the investment of professional time. I test the person to see if the traumatic memory is still stored in the person’s soul and the treatment merely temporarily blocked the retrieval of it.)
I’ve been an ordained minister for many years as I used to do services on a regular basis at a church prior to relocating when I retired. I still do services on a periodic regular and irregular basis in retirement. This month I will do two services, last month was one service.
The basis for the work is the common elements in most religions, i.e. forgiveness, prayer, .......
Thus all that I do is done as a spiritual healing, which is exactly what it is. I work strictly on the person’s soul. Because it’s physical to me, it is very easy to do. This is true even though many of the people I work with are referrals from Dr’s as idiopathic cases. I’ve worked individually with many MD’s, psychologists, and research faculty on their own issues. It takes me about ten minutes to do what psychotherapy takes years of sessions and they still can’t find or heal the perceptual programming event causing the difficulty in the person’s life. (Most medical treatment is symptom suppression, not problem resolution.. If you heal the physical body, it is temporary, If you heal the soul, it is permanent.)
Basically, I teach people how to pray and understand how prayer works (and why it often does not work). This assists people in Loving God and finding and removing the obstacles to Love that exist within their souls in order that they can Love their neighbor AND themselves.
I don’t charge for any of the work that I do, so I have kept a low profile to avoid the burden of many people wanting me to “fix” them. That is not what this is about. I prefer to teach exactly what religions teach so people can “fix” themselves and others. Bottom line is, all that I do is only to help people understand the scriptures better.
I’ve worked with and been asked to work with several major university medical research departments, but my guidance in meditation has been to avoid these and to date I have turned them down. That is now changing. What I have shared is a very small tip of a very large glacier of information relating to the root causes of many physical and mental medical illnesses.
There is always truth mixed in with the lie.
Yes, the need to forgive is big, far bigger than I ever realized at first and I think the church has been very remiss up until now for not emphasizing it so much and for not correctly teaching on that.
I see that changing but it is far more significant than most people realize and can really give God a lot of room to work when we forgive someone.
Amen to that, sister!
Well; I don't understand how you understand this.
Thus the phrase:
Matthew 7:1 comes to mind.
Also:
1 John 4:20-21
You must first remove the load of mud from your own eye before you try to throw mud in my eye.
Blessings
Indeed it does!
"Dare any of you, having a matter against another, go to law before the unrighteous, and not before the saints? Do you not know that the saints will judge the world?... And if the world will be judged by you, are you unworthy to judge the smallest matters?... Do you not know that we shall judge angels?... How much more, things that pertain to this life?.. If then you have judgments concerning things pertaining to this life, do you appoint those who are least esteemed by the church to judge ? (1 Corinthians 6:1-5).
Many commands of God require the exercise of righteous judgment.
"But we command you, brethren, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you withdraw from every brother who walks disorderly and not according to the tradition which he received from us" (2 Thessalonians 3:6).
"And if anyone does not obey our word in this epistle, note that person and do not keep company with him, that he may be ashamed. Yet do not count him as an enemy, but admonish him as a brother" (2 Thessalonians 3:14,15).
"Teach and exhort these things. If anyone teaches otherwise and does not consent to wholesome words, even the words of our Lord Jesus Christ, and to the doctrine which is according to godliness, he is proud, knowing nothing, but is obsessed with disputes and arguments over words, from which come envy, strife, reviling, evil suspicions, useless wrangling of men of corrupt minds and destitute of the truth, who suppose that godliness is a means of gain. From such withdraw yourself" (2 Timothy 6:2b-5).
"Now I urge you, brethren, note those who cause divisions and offenses, contrary to the doctrine which you learned, and avoid them. For those who are such do not serve our Lord Jesus Christ, but their own belly, and by smooth words and flattering speech deceive the hearts of the simple" (Romans 16:17,18).
All these commands require the careful exercise of righteousness judgment. Do not be deceived by smooth words and flattering speech. Beware of wolves who come to you with a sheep's skin.
We must be careful not to make unqualified judgments. But we must judge appropriately when commanded to do so.
"Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment." (John 7:24).
Strange; when I was alluding to...
John 9:6After saying this, he spit on the ground, made some mud with the saliva, and put it on the man’s eyes.
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