I should be an engaged counselor …
I think more than half the time, my advice would be DON’T DO IT!!!
Mr Roo Roo and I had to take a mandatory church marriage prep class before we got married. It was 16 hours over a period of 8 weeks. There were about 20 couples in the class. One of the pastors taught the class.
He delivered a very strong message every time we met: nothing is worse than divorce, if you’re having doubts/second thoughts, don’t get married. Even if it means cancelling the day of the wedding—DON’T get married if you have serious doubts.