Unless one trusts their wife. Some of do, you know.
Certainly. Trust is essential to a successful marriage.
But this couple’s stated goal was to prevent the wife’s pregnancy. As long as the wife remains fertile she can become pregnant. Trust has nothing to do with that. It is a biological fact.
Rather than trust, we should be considering another essential element of successful marriage, commitment. That’s commitment to each other and to their stated goal.
In this case, commitment would have required mutual sacrifice. That sacrifice was mutual sterilization. Without mutual sterilization the wife could still become pregnant.
The husband sacrificed by undergoing a vasectomy. He demonstrated commitment to his wife and their mutual goal.
Conversely, the wife took measures to restore herself to full fertility and desirability. She demonstrated no commitment to her husband or their mutual goal, only to herself.
Neutering the husband only reduced the chances of the wife’s pregnancy. And the wife’s refusal to even mention sterilization indicates she was not committed to her husband or their mutual goal of no pregnancy.
This wife wanted to remain fully fertile while ensuring her husband could neither impregnate her nor anyone else. That is not commitment. And there is no trust in this arrangement, only manipulation.