Guess my wife and I are guilty of child abuse. Mild corporal punishment and the expectation that chores would be done. I wonder why we have an accomplished 31-year old daughter after such a horrible upbringing.
A common Russian would be surpised to learn that your daughter hasn't been taken away from you and put in a foster home by the social services for child abuse. Judging from his/her idea of how the things are done in the USA, of course.