Posted on 07/28/2019 2:16:05 PM PDT by Magnatron
Happens to the best of us.
I’m 53, and I don’t see myself as competing with anyone.
Solid advice.
The only reason a "young hunk" would be interested in a much older woman, would be if she was paying the bills. And he would be seeing younger girls on the side.
Oh no...she’s in Hendersonville, NC. I’ll never visit the mountains again.
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Just don’t climb “that” mountain.
I know about expectations. Some of them ask way too many detailed, almost silly questions, obviously evaluating their idealized idea of a match or not. IMO, this is not an age range to have much in the way of expectations, other than general moral and physical/temperament compatibility. You have to get used to the rest. Although the “temperament” thing is tricky. Firstly, you don’t really know them at first and secondly, sometimes opposites do well together, other times definitely not.
Yes, it’s hard to know how people will “mesh.” Going slow ... a LOT of trips to the ball game, park, homeless mission ... seems to be in order.
One view is that older people can rush into things because they’re not going to have children, and they’re not going to live forever ... but why get hooked in with someone you realize fairly quickly that you don’t really like, who’s not nice to be around?
I’ve seen widowed men and women in my parish (and in my Weight Watchers meeting) marry fairly quickly, but there hasn’t been enough time pass to know if they really end up happy for ten years or more. On the one hand, there’s the chance of ending up a caregiver right away, and on the other, there’s the chance that after a few months, you realize you were snookered.
Yeah, if I live anyway close to my mother’s age (102) at time of death (a couple months ago), I will have to put up with whatever for quite some time.
Most?
Wow,did she ever hit the wall hard.
My sympathies on your loss, but dang, 102! My mother, the eponymous OldTax-lady, is only 81.
Hitting “The Wall” can be very unforgiving. Take care of yourself, unlike Kelly.
Weird is how older people will quickly move in together. So wrong. If after 6 months you’re not really a match, how to get them out? No way.
The bigger issue is that she is a Leftist Turd, encompassing everything that goes with it.
It means she is ugly inside and out.
I can have a lot of love and affinity for someone who is downright ugly, but is beautiful inside.
And I can find someone physically attractive without knowing what they are inside.
But when they open their mouth to expose their inner self and I find it repugnant, no matter how attractive they are, I find them repulsive.
Doubly so for someone who is both physically and mentally unattractive.
Nope. Even Tom Selleck has turned down. Best I can tell, his peak was age 50. He was still charming in “Blue Bloods,” but looks-wise, meh.
He speaks the truth.
My sons Father-in-Law delivers “medical supplies” to her regularly. So, besides not having the aesthetics needed for a follow-on movie, not sure she is physically able to do it.
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