They are all terrible.
When we moved north of Gay Frisco in the late 1960’s, SFO was under major construction.
Now in 2019, that construction is still going on and Oakland is a close second. Traffic is a mess 24/7.
Fifteen years ago, we refused to go either airport to pick up friends or relatives. If they flew into either airport, getting to our home was up to them.
They could fly into Sacramento. If they arrived during the morning or evening rush hours, they had to rent a car
to come to our home or wait an hour or two. Then, we would pick them up.
When my family visits they fly into LAX. I have them take the bus vs. me picking them up. Pickup at LAX is atrocious. Drop off is easy. I came through there in June and because of renovation or whatever now pickup and drop off are on the same level. Makes it really bad and congested.