One cannot be in a healthy relationship if one is not comfortable in one's own skin. That's not a "woman thing" or a "man thing", it's a human thing. I suggest that men who abuse are not comfortable in their own skin; the abuse is an attempt to cover up some perceived lack in their own person. A man who is confident in himself doesn't need to crap on other people; a woman who is confident in herself doesn't have to manipulate other people.
Very true. And well stated.