i once tried helping someone who was down and out, knowing they didn’t have enough food many times- only to find out they were spending what i gave them on lottery tickets- when i confronted them about it they got angry and declared that i ‘had no right trying to dictate where the money i gave them went to’
Meh- if they didn’t want any more outside ‘help’, all they had to do was say so
Most people that “need help” is because of poor life decisions, rather than because they are truly down and out. Seen this first hand with brother, SIL, many other relatives and friends.