A bouncer choked out by a girl... something tells me this “bouncer” is the owners cousin.
Could have caught him off guard. He's watching the door or the crowd, and she sneaks up and grabs him. He may be unwilling to throw her off, in fear of injuring her, maybe even thinking she's just pranking him, until it's too late. I could see it happening.
I do not envy you the headache you will have when you awake. But for now, rest well and dream of large women.