Absolutely great scene in Mad Men. Couldn’t be more true.
Point is, they don’t know themselves.
Eventually, when enough of yourself has been invested, and contempt has set in, she’ll finally ask herself.
The answer will be ‘not you’.
Then she’ll leave. She’ll find someone else, decide she screwed up, and then think she can come back.
But she can’t.
Best thing that ever happened to me, was that she left.
Mine didn’t leave. She made me leave. She got the house. And the kids. I’m still footing the bill.