I got into this the other night with my wife. She was going down a list of times she was groped in high school and college.
I asked what she did about it back then. The response was that in some cases she did nothing because she “put herself” in the situation. In other cases she kneed the guy (which in public, is a good choice. Not so good an idea in private.)
In most cases she told no one and just promised herself to be more alert.
I asked why she didn’t tell someone. She knew me at the time, why didn’t you tell me?
She knew I would beat the shit out of the guy.
My point was that, as a man, you did not trust me to respond correctly when it happened—and yet, as a man I am responsible for not reacting, or taking it seriously. How could I respond to something I never knew about?
So, my new rule is that if I am told by my daughters or wife that something happened, they have to trust that I will respond appropriately. But, if I am not told in a reasonable time, they cannot hold me accountable.
I am so tired of being accused of being insensitive when I have no idea that anything was wrong. It’s a Bigot’s position.
I asked why she didn’t tell someone. She knew me at the time, why didn’t you tell me?
She knew I would beat the shit out of the guy.
Mr. Roo Roo also did the same thing a couple of times when daughter was being bullied by a couple of really mean boys. The school was completely ineffective at stopping the bullying. .......Then Mr. Roo Roo went to the school one day, daughter pointed out the bullies, and Mr. Roo Roo had and “Fear of God” conversation with them. Bingo, the bullying stopped immediately.
Years ago my younger sister made the poor choice to hang out with the drug-using crowd at her high-school. She must have thought they were the cool kids.
But she didn't use drugs herself. Soon the others began to suspect that she might be an informant and they pressured her to use drugs and threatened her.
Though my sister told me these things she never told me the names. Gee, I wonder why not?