Should have used that money to buy a house and pay their debts.
This is just about why I hate weddings in general. People become so Hypocritical and the Mendacity just piles up.
I finally got where I looked at a wedding invitation as a demand for a gift. So other than a cousin whose wedding I attended about 4 years ago I have pretty much avoided going to them for the last 30 plus years.
It’s almost sad to see the monies spent on the elusive fairy tale weddings that people want.
Would rather attend a funeral, a lot less pretense.
It’s been said, that women want to GET married, while men just want to BE married.
The perfect wedding for me is to elope to Las Vegas and get married by an Elvis impersonator. I tried talking my wife into that when we married some 30 years ago but she insisted on the full wedding extravaganza. Big weddings are ingrained in the women culture. They are raised from childhood to expect a "fairy-tale" experience with all the trimmings.
So I basically told her to knock herself out. Just tell me what to wear and what time to show up. She and her mother spent months and months with such inanities as interviewing photographers, florists, and DJ's. They must have went to a hundred reception halls. They never could understand why I didn't want to be a part of it. To her, it was the thrill of a lifetime. I was just glad to get through the day itself!
$30,000 they spent on that wedding. And that was over 30 years ago. But that's what she wanted and as I've learned in life, if the wife isn't happy, than nobody's happy.
I’d rather not attend another funeral for a while. I’m kind of a big guy so always get recruited as a pal bearer. Also always get asked to speak, which I’m honored to do but sucks. Also lost too many friends lately. So yeah, I’ll take an ostentatious wedding over a funeral any day. /Sorry to be so maudlin, but it’s my reality