I dated a drunk once. He wasn’t mean, but the drink made him think he was in a lecture hall, and he’d get all professorial, and follow me around trying to convince me of whatever topic he had hit upon. Exhausting!
As one of old redneck buddies used to tell me, “I don’t drink much whiskey,when I drink whiskey,you cant tell me sh*t, but you can ask me anything you want to know”