I don’t know you personally but the thought of a woman being abused always angers me. I am thankful you stood up to him and more importantly that you survived. In that situation not all women do.
Abusers count on a woman’s low self esteem or a family controversy, to take control. An abuser can not control a woman who has security of the the love of her family,
Family is so important. I’d say if we want to help women who are abused, we first determine if her family really cares about her., because if they don’t, she won’t care about herself.
Of course, the family who does not care will DENY that they don’t care...
Survival is relative.
I have a wonderful husband now, a great guy, a good man.
But I love him intellectually , as a commandment, by oath.
Because I do not know how to love ...it is denied me. I can’t feel it, just acknowledge it.
So, does my abuser win?
No way!