We had a young man do this in our Church recently. His wife is a wonderful young lady who is from a wonderful family. Dad is a extremely nice, retired Brig. General from the Army, Mom is just one of God’s gifts to humanity...both the kind of folks you are glad to have in your life.
While I would not call the young man an ‘Alpha’, he seems like a very nice guy, he loves his wife dearly, and I think he just wanted to be part of their family.
I know nothing of his family life.
They’re setting their daughter up for failure.
Sounds like he would rather be part of their family than avow membership in his own family. He might be estranged from his family. Not a good sign!
Regards,
I recently read a story of a couple from California where the husband took his wife’s last name. It wasn’t for political or feminist reasons, just personal.
From what I recall, the husband wasn’t close to his family, especially his dad. His dad never had much to do with him and his family was cold and dysfunctional.
OTOH, he knew his wife and her family for years. From the very beginning, his wife’s dad treated him like his own son and taught him skills such as how to mow the lawn, how to fix things such as vehicles, appliances, etc. The future father-in-law did everything that his biological dad didn’t do. The groom was also very close to his future Mother-In-Law.
So, to honor the family that had treated him as their own son, the husband decided to take his wife’s name. It wasn’t a “ virtue signaling” gesture but that he considered his wife’s family as his own, especially since his bio family wasn’t close.
To be honest, I usually look down on men who take their wife’s name but, in this case, I can understand and respect his decision.
Maybe the young man in your church is from a similar situation. He may be from a neglectful, dysfunctional or even abusive family and wants to honor and say “thanks” to his bride’s family.