[Mrs. Don-o]

One would think you would be right, that the "attachment wound" would be bigger if you knew you killed your child; whereas if you made an adoption plan for your child and placed him in another woman's loving arms, that would give you some basis for the peace that comes from a clear conscience.

However, it doesn't always work out like that. It makes sense morally, maybe intellectually, but it can work out differently emotionally. And unfortunately, many people operate not on the basis of principle or intellect, but on the basis of how they feel. This is sentimentalism.

It is not too extreme to say that sentimentalism kills.

[JBW1949]

Well, I’m sure my “male mind” looks at it quite differently than the female mind...

[JBW1949]

Well, I’m sure my “male mind” looks at it quite differently than the female mind...