I went to Whole Foods yesterday (yeah, I know I know, but their seafood is the best here in landlocked AZ). The checker, who was easily observable as a female, had a sticker on the name tag that had a male name and ‘he/him requested’. I didn’t use the name or any pronouns, but I may have to rethink how much I want to go to Whole Foods again.
Give it a couple of weeks and they'll be gone. Someone that toxic and/or unstable won't last.
Locally, there's someone like who you describe. I've seen him/her/it in a handful of different retail positions in town over the past 12-18 months. I think they move every few weeks.
Person is pretty hard to miss. Latin-looking dude with a heavy beard .....Long hair in a ponytail, full drag, and makeup so thick it may have been applied with a trowel.
It's nice to find out which businesses want to virtue-signal. Target was the latest, which was no surprise.
You might have addressed her as “Whole Foods cashier,” as in, “Thank you for applying my coupon, Whole Foods cashier!”