i think thats why my oldest did n’t have kids— so much lousy (SO MUCH!!!) on the husbands side, they decided not to take a chance. Youngest did not want kids when she was married, wanted kids after but would not go the single mom route, and now she’s over it.
I have had the grand kid spot filled by my son in laws niece, and it has worked for both of us, since her parents both suck out loud ( OUT LOUD). She is 18 now, no babies, no addiction problems, we did it!! Very proud of her and love her like she was my own.
My mom remarried after my dad died. My stepdad has a son (who had converted to Judaism!) and he had two incredible wonderful kids. So she got to be a grandma (and a Jewish grandma, kind of) without me having to do anything :-)