Hello, I too have faced similar obstacles in family life.
Anger at the son is to be left at the side. You have a job to do as a parent and you owe it to your family at to try and help. Anger does no good.
You have to bring him forward and leave the pain he is holding on to behind. Show a path. Take the time. Don’t give up. And pray for him and you and your family. Let him know that he is the reason you try to help. He is your son.
You are the father, not to scold but to guide. You can do it. Teach him not to be a victim.
Get him off the prescription drugs. They will mess with the alcohol he will drink and his mind if he doesn’t.
Talk, but not just about him and what he is doing to himself. Be his “therapist”. Learn to guide the conversation toward enlightenment. Show him the beauty in the world. Doing this will make him want to change and seeing and imagining a better happiness that come with the future. We can all change.
You are right that it’s up to him, but your guidance is key. I say this only if he is not violent as I have assumed. If he is, there are similar but other steps and advice to add.
Prayers for you and your family. Stand and be strong.
Thank you for your input.
I love my son, and it’s difficult
to try and point him in the right
direction. I’ve been on my own
since I was 16, and nobody gave me
a damn thing. It’s strange to me
Why my son hasn’t the same drive
and determination, other than
his affections, which his mother
and I are trying to cope with.
Thank you so much for your input.
These are difficult times for the
wife and I. We’ve raised our
son to stand on his own two, and
his reactions to conversation
has been rebellious. I can
only imagine his pain. But we will
not quit until he finds peace.