[Pollster1]

Incels believe that, due to reasons entirely beyond their control ― too short, too bald, too weak a jawline ― they cannot attract a female partner. They believe they’re doomed to remain alone, forever . . . self-professed losers with no one but each other.

Height helps for dating most women. Not being bald helps with more than half of women also. Jawline? It probably matters a little too. Income and personality can overcome those for a first date and usually will dominate all of those factors when it comes to a second date. Incels just have no personality, not even enough to earn a big income.

[MeganC]

Being an actual man helps a lot, too.

I’m 27 and most of the males my age are pathetic bordering upon contemptible. Mr. Megan is almost twice my age, he is a retired Marine, and I trust him with my life and the lives of my children because I know without a doubt that he will absolutely end anyone who threatens us. Anyone.

Try saying that last bit about 99% of Millennial boys.

[unlearner]

Perhaps I’m not understanding their complaints clearly, but could there be a problem with THEIR expectations of the type of woman they hope to date?

I mean, they talk about how inadequate they are. Aren’t there plenty of women who feel similarly about their features or appearance who also feel deprived of a relationship with a man because they see themselves as not pretty enough?

Are they unhappy unless they can be a member of the Brangelina and Bennifer crowd? (Perhaps those are not the best examples since both of those couples ended up splitting.)