Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I hadn’t thought about the abusive ‘dominant’ partner doing this unabated. But I bet you’re right. With all the friends in denial or not being shown this aspect of the abuser. I wonder if we’ll ever find out what the true relationship dynamics were in this couple—short of a suicide note. Sad the kids paid the ultimate price.
I have seen it secondhand. A friend’s sister had been beaten up by her lesbian significant other. She went into hiding. It had been going on for some time.
I’ve read up on things like this. The abuse is addictive for the abuser and they always end up killing the object of their ‘love’.