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Marriage Proposals Are Stupid
The Atlantic ^ | March 23, 2018 | Carolione Kitchner

Posted on 03/27/2018 6:18:53 AM PDT by C19fan

The marriage proposal is one of the most ritualized moments in modern American life. Growing up, many girls are instilled with a specific idea of how it should go: He’ll take us somewhere romantic—we’ll have no idea what’s happening—he’ll get down on one knee—we’ll start crying—he’ll pop the question—we’ll immediately say yes. It should be magical.

But for a lot of heterosexual couples, the proposal—as movies portray it, as many millennial women have internalized it—doesn’t reflect the kind of modern, egalitarian relationships many women want today. Whom to marry is among the most important decisions most people will ever make in their lives, and yet it’s not a choice made in the course of a conversation—the normal way two grown humans make big life decisions. Instead, it has to be a show, with a prefixed grand finale: “yes.”

(Excerpt) Read more at theatlantic.com ...


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KEYWORDS: marriage
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To: C19fan

I never proposed to my wife. After dating for three weeks I knew enough about her that I TOLD her I was going to marry her. That it might take some time to wear her down but she was going to be my wife.

25 years of marriage and we are still going strong.


61 posted on 03/27/2018 7:26:57 AM PDT by taxcontrol (Stupid should hurt)
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To: Rebelbase

Odds are it was staged.


62 posted on 03/27/2018 7:29:01 AM PDT by dfwgator
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To: C19fan

It’s not just the marriage proposal that’s stupid. MARRIAGE is stupid. Especially for men.


63 posted on 03/27/2018 7:30:13 AM PDT by usconservative (When The Ballot Box No Longer Counts, The Ammunition Box Does. (What's In Your Ammo Box?))
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To: C19fan

We had a two way, extended conversation. It’s worked out very well for the last 38 years, even the differences of opinion.


64 posted on 03/27/2018 7:30:15 AM PDT by JimSEA
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To: jeffc
I will assume the author has never been proposed to ... by a man, at least.
65 posted on 03/27/2018 7:31:15 AM PDT by NorthMountain (... the right of the people to keep and bear arms shall not be infringed)
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To: CodeToad

Speaking of Bloom County:

I take the Steve Dallas approach:

In my dreams
You’re all I sees
Boobs, Butt and Knees
Be my main squeeze.


66 posted on 03/27/2018 7:31:19 AM PDT by dfwgator
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To: dfwgator

Poetry. Pure poetry!


67 posted on 03/27/2018 7:32:14 AM PDT by CodeToad (The Democrats haven't been this pissed off since the Republicans took their slaves away.)
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To: MrEdd

MrEdd wrote: “My proposal was that my orders had come in and that I was being posted to Georgia to be followed by Aberdeen Proving Ground after nine months. If she wanted to come with me we would have to be married.”

I put a wedding ring in a Christmas Tree ornament. We’ve been married 25 years.


68 posted on 03/27/2018 7:43:59 AM PDT by DugwayDuke ("A man hears what he wants to hear and disregards the rest")
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To: Mrs. Don-o

“Listen to me....why won’t people listen to me??!!”


69 posted on 03/27/2018 7:47:11 AM PDT by BookmanTheJanitor
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To: usconservative

It varies.

My husband and I have had 30 good years and are still learning how.


70 posted on 03/27/2018 8:38:37 AM PDT by Mrs. Don-o (Stone cold sober, as a matter of fact.)
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To: Mrs. Don-o
I'd say that's AWESOME for you and your husband! Congratulations and best wishes for many happy and healthy more years.
71 posted on 03/27/2018 8:43:28 AM PDT by usconservative (When The Ballot Box No Longer Counts, The Ammunition Box Does. (What's In Your Ammo Box?))
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To: miss marmelstein

When I saw the post on which you commented, I thought it was probably by you before I saw the author’s name :)


72 posted on 03/27/2018 8:46:01 AM PDT by all the best
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To: PGR88

You’d be wrong she’s actually cute

Princeton women and gender studies

Writes at Atlantic

It’s in her DNA now....PROGRESSIVISM

She’s managed her love life poorly and writes about it for a living

Following boyfriend after college without ring

Likes to boink but hates men cause she feels threatened unless orgasming

Typical


73 posted on 03/27/2018 8:52:49 AM PDT by wardaddy (As a southerner I've never trusted the Grand Old Party.....any questions?)
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To: all the best

Why perforce?


74 posted on 03/27/2018 8:59:15 AM PDT by miss marmelstein
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To: usconservative

Thank you. My husband is the better of us two. But he puts up with me!!


75 posted on 03/27/2018 9:29:57 AM PDT by Mrs. Don-o ("I ain't denyin' the women are foolish. The Good Lord made 'em to match the men.")
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To: miss marmelstein

I guess I see you as being literate and sophisticated. Or something like that.


76 posted on 03/27/2018 9:38:28 AM PDT by all the best
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To: C19fan

Feminism like dogs sniff then screw.


77 posted on 03/27/2018 9:43:05 AM PDT by Vaduz (women and children to be impacIQ of chimpsted the most.)
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To: Mrs. Don-o
As best I recall having been married 30 years (now happily divorced, single and dating a wonderful Christian woman ...) it's a mutual game of "put up with me" and compromise.

BTW, I've seen your posts over the years, my guess is there's not a whole lot to put up with. ;-)

78 posted on 03/27/2018 10:38:15 AM PDT by usconservative (When The Ballot Box No Longer Counts, The Ammunition Box Does. (What's In Your Ammo Box?))
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To: all the best

I guess I see you as being literate and sophisticated. Or something like that.


What are these? Messages from Garica or something even more obscure?


79 posted on 03/27/2018 10:56:29 AM PDT by miss marmelstein
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To: C19fan

Is the author an angry lesbian?


80 posted on 03/27/2018 11:03:01 AM PDT by Trillian
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