.........your first sentence is THE POINT..............no doubt! LOL, no 2 people in my family think the same thing EVER about anything.
I had a boyhood friend named Bobby Roberts. As little ten year old boys We use to play cave man along a creek on his mothers 500 acre goat ranch. We would hunt each other with Daisy bb guns! Rarely would either one of us hit the other.
The rule was to shoot below the waist. His mom promised a “whuppin” with my belt” if anybody got hurt. Never happened.
8 years later, Bobby caught a round in the forehead somewhere in the Danang area and was dead before he hit the ground. So, on the one hand I HATE that we’re buddy buddy with North Vietnam but on the other hand I’m glad that as a country we don’t still hate Japan and Germany...............so, it’s just not an easy call............period.
Understood - and sorry about your mate.