I knew a finance professor. He may have been a good professor, but he was fresh out. Socially clueless. Anyway, we eventually met his wife. A Filipino woman, we all assumed a mail order bride. But she definitely told him what to do and when. But I think it was good for him. Outside of academia, he was out to sea. And I never heard him complain. But she wasn’t “docile” to him.
It is not unusual for your more drifty academics and engineers and programmers to find a high-efficiency wife, regardless of ethnicity. The poor dears wouldn’t eat or bathe otherwise.