I am so sorry for what your family is going through. I have walked that road. Emotional disorders are really tough on everybody involved. I agree with all the comments regarding limiting social media, tv and gaming. Get the best psychiatric help you can find. Make sure you know what your child is posting and share anything alarming with your child’s therapist. Watch out for your child cutting. I understand that current trend is for kids to do that on their legs where it can be hidden. Depending on diagnosis the treatment may depend on talk therapy from a clinical psychologist and pharmacutical. I agree with comment about ssri may be helpful but do your research on that. Lots of data coming out about how dangerous they can be for young people.
Probably one of the most important thing you and your spouse can do is get support team in place for you. That may need to be a therapist to help you to process what your family is going through. Give yourself a lot of love and do not blame yourself. Be very kind to yourself and to your spouse. Learn mindfulness.
I am praying for your family.
Bump to post 31 - lots of great points.
We did a “mindfulness” thing with our daughter. It was very helpful to her and mom and dad. At first it seems like a bunch of crap - but after a few sessions I started to “get” it. At the end I said “You know - EVERYONE would benefit from these skills.”