An example where you feel I did that might be more helpful.
Actually, I'm more convinced of my own clay feet than most folks I know. I keenly know the pit whereof I was dug.
I feel I make feeble efforts to communicate complex but important things all the time.
I know from most of my decades that other folks often misconstrue me as a person and what I was trying to say. It has often been very difficult to improve how I come across--particularly with some types of people.
I know Qx has had a similar problem with some types of people. And I don't even know that either one of us could easily describe precisely what type of person that is. It just seems to be a slightly common but occasional thing.
We both also know that most folks, face to face, who persist in pushing past initial hesitations and establish a genuine closer relationship with us--they totally lay aside such impressions and assumptions.
I have often said to Qx--"Wellllll, someone else failed the Qx test!" i.e. they failed to persist in the relationship long enough to relate to the true us in a genuine fashion and see us as doing exactly that--as we had been from the beginning.
Some sorts of people "Pass the Qx test" immediately. Not sure why. They seem to be folks who are also brazenly transparent, honest, candid, creative, think out of the box, startlingly unique etc.
Whatever you are keying in on about me--Qx probably has it at least a couple times worse. LOL. Nevertheless, most of 3,000+ students KNEW he cared for them as individuals and would have done anything he could have to help them.
And they typically said that his classes were the only worthwhile and fun classes they attended--that they took practical good things away to use in their lives--much more than book knowledge. Because of that, he learned to not care that much what folks who didn't persevere enough in relationship with him to know and understand his authentic self.
Yet, when he tried to go out of his way to pay a thoughtful & kind complement to a raging feminist colleague--a sociology prof--she bit his head off as though he'd cussed her out as some sort of hideous creature. Mystifying.
I used to have such problems in my retail job with my co-workers. They often reacted to me as though I was prissy and thought myself better than others.
Thankfully, my supervisor knew better. And, Qx helped me see that it was usually individuals who were insecure or jealous or had a habit of complaining about, of blaming others for their own crap.
And, he helped me build some bridges with such folks that before I'd have just written of as impossible to relate to.
Therefore what, I don't know. But I appreciate finally understanding what you meant.