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How to avoid harassing women: Think like a romance novel
NY Post ^ | January 31, 2018 | Andie J. Christopher

Posted on 02/02/2018 5:19:34 AM PST by C19fan

As a feminist and a romance novelist, if I wrote about a male protagonist who made unwanted sexual advances towards his female employee or ignored pleas to slow down or stop trying to have sex with a date, I would be pilloried by my readers — and rightly so.

Because that’s not the behavior of a romance hero, that’s the behavior of a villain.

(Excerpt) Read more at nypost.com ...


TOPICS: Books/Literature; Society
KEYWORDS: hashtagmetrosexual; metoo; metrosexual
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To: mewzilla

A good recommendation to not read it.

I don’t force myself to finish books, though I usually do. Luckily, I have the mind of a sieve, so I can read and reread books over and over again and they stay fresh and new.


61 posted on 02/02/2018 7:39:36 AM PST by mairdie
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To: mewzilla

Valentino was too pretty for my tastes. I always fell for the rugged types.


62 posted on 02/02/2018 7:44:08 AM PST by BykrBayb (Lung cancer free since 11/9/07. Colon cancer free since 7/7/15. Obama free since 1/20/17. PTL ~ Þ)
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To: mewzilla

That’s probably better because I was just thinking you maybe don’t want to say to a woman all the things you would say in front of a man. That would cause a different kind of problem.


63 posted on 02/02/2018 7:49:31 AM PST by ichabod1 (People don't want to believe it be what it is but it do.)
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To: C19fan

Brought to you by someone who’s world is run from the omniscient point of view.

And that is woman, no?

You think of a man, and you take away reason and accountability. (As Good As It Gets)

She should start dating women, and then report back when she’s figured out how they tick.


64 posted on 02/02/2018 7:52:03 AM PST by RinaseaofDs
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To: ichabod1

LOL. I’m so glad I happily married. I can’t imagine trying to date these days.


65 posted on 02/02/2018 7:52:33 AM PST by mewzilla
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To: mewzilla

AGREED!


66 posted on 02/02/2018 8:00:07 AM PST by mairdie
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To: ichabod1; mewzilla
... you maybe don’t want to say to a woman all the things you would say in front of a man. That would cause a different kind of problem.

Yes, it might. That's why I specified "sexual advances," that is, words or actions expressive of an interest in sex with the other person.

There are other situations in which the concept of, "Would you say this to a man?" is not helpful.

67 posted on 02/02/2018 8:42:29 AM PST by Tax-chick (Harvey Weinstein was married to a beautiful model.)
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To: mewzilla

I get that. Also, in the same vein, I might donate books but I’d never throw them away. Two exceptions that went into the bin. American Psycho and the children’s commie book The Rainbow Fish.


68 posted on 02/02/2018 10:52:19 AM PST by Yaelle
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To: C19fan; AdmSmith; AnonymousConservative; Berosus; Bockscar; cardinal4; ColdOne; ...

“Think” and “romance novel” don’t ever belong in the same sentence.

The romance novels of not that many years ago often had an early scene where “he takes her” (it was on the damned back covers of the books) and was “Great Expectations” in reverse, with years going by and the woman at the center of every one of those canned little stories eventually running into him again, and he’s changed, and he’s suffered a lot, and let’s just rekindle blah blah blah.


69 posted on 02/02/2018 11:17:39 AM PST by SunkenCiv (www.tapatalk.com/groups/godsgravesglyphs/, forum.darwincentral.org, www.gopbriefingroom.com)
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To: C19fan

Embrace Your Masculine Toxicity

Don’t touch any women, leave lost kids alone.
Maleness is Mafia; you’re Don Corleone.
But it’s mostly you older guys doomed, as a rule;
The snow-flaky beta males are neutered in school.


70 posted on 02/02/2018 2:34:56 PM PST by sparklite2 (See more at Sparklite Times)
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To: C19fan


Does that earring mean you're a pirate?
Kind of.
71 posted on 02/02/2018 6:16:31 PM PST by Trillian
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To: Cecily
OMG, Kathleen Woodiwiss was EXACTLY who I was thinking of! Heather and Brandon! Aislinn and Wulfgar! Aislinn from The Wolf and the Dove...she eventually just had Stockholm Syndrome, I'm pretty sure! And a Rose in Winter, with the hero in that "burned" disguise LOL... and yet I loved them, when I was 15-16. Cripes, her and Joanna Lindsay... I took Captive Bride to school and my girlfriends all passed it around till it fell open at certain pages! Oh my...
72 posted on 02/02/2018 8:23:12 PM PST by A_perfect_lady
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To: Poison Pill
This lady spends zero time writing about how Sally was swept off her feet by John, the Odor Eaters Junior Midwest brand manager.

ROTFL!!! Okay, that made me laugh out loud.

73 posted on 02/02/2018 8:27:32 PM PST by A_perfect_lady
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To: A_perfect_lady

I read a few by Rosemary Rogers during those teenage years as well (Ginny and Steve). You realize how terrible those stories are when you become an adult woman. Talk about getting wrong messages and expectations at an impressionable age!


74 posted on 02/03/2018 12:27:05 PM PST by Cecily
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To: C19fan; Pelham

My mother as a widow in her late 60s read romance novels which were basically soft porn erotica

Like Zane Grey meets Xavier Hollander

“The stranger she’d noticed earlier at the cemetery by her husbands grave moved like a leopard from the shadow ....despite her reflex to flee she didn’t resist when he pulled her close and she smelled the tobacco and saddle tack and gunpowder on him as his firm but warm grasp groped her heaving breasts and he warmly kissed her neck .....again she didn’t resist....she felt his other hand move up her thigh and caress her now eager wiling and oh so dewey womanhood aroused in such carnal ways she’d never experienced even with her dear husband who was the only man she’d ever known like this till this moment

......he was gentle with her as he kissed her lovingly and she felt herself going places deeper and more intensely ever in her 35 years of life

She felt as though she was leaving her own body... as she arranged herself even more vulnerable and opened to this oh so intense and powerful man yet she felt not one ounce fear of him....her instincts just melted away lost in the ecstasy

Later they collapsed in a heap upon one another in the sweet smell of Timothy hay and noticed all the horses staring intently at them both until they went back to grazing

He dressed and declared you know what I have to do I’ll try to make it back to you and the boy ...
If you’ll have me.

She pleaded knowing the risks he faced avenging his family that had been butchered ..by the same Killers

But she knew he had to

She watched him ride off towards the red rocks as the sunset glistened in that late afternoon clarity somewhat ashamed she’d submitted so readily knowing her dear husband had only been dead a year but praying to The Lord the stranger did indeed return........did she dare allow her to think she might love again

.....

that’s sorta the gist of western romance erotica....it’s like mild benevolent stranger rape fantasy....an innocuous ravage by a stranger who’s redeemed

Luke and Laura sorta..

I really don’t think that’s what women want

They do wish to be ravaged .....no question...and to submit sexually sometimes

Which is quite a conundrum for hipster women immersed in soft boys

I would read some of my moms books out loud to piss her off.....it was funny...she didn’t think so bless her heart


75 posted on 02/03/2018 12:59:07 PM PST by wardaddy (As a southerner I've never trusted the Grand Old Party.....any questions?)
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To: wardaddy
I would read some of my moms books out loud to piss her off.....it was funny...she didn’t think so bless her heart

and I bet she was thinking "bless his little heart..."

76 posted on 02/03/2018 3:06:14 PM PST by Pelham (California, a subsidiary of Mexico, Inc.)
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To: Cecily

Oh yes, I remember Ginny and Steve. And my mother had the entire Angelique series.


77 posted on 02/03/2018 5:28:38 PM PST by A_perfect_lady
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