The best place is to have acreage where you neighbors do not even see you. Of have walls around the property so they never see inside if they do not want too.
I encourage all the easily offended to live with an HOA.
True-everyone does not do well living in a hive-I hate cities, wasn’t brought up in one, refuse to live in one and only visit my guy there if he insists. I live on fenced and gated acreage, like everyone else out here. Ranch gates, long driveways, most dwellings not visible from the road. You mind your own business and others will do the same-in the rare instance that a control type moves here, they are unhappy enough to move away in 2 years or less-as Martha Stewart said it’s a good thing...