I completely understand. I was in the exact same relationship shop. Sadly it is rare to find a female narcissist as we both have s s agreed as to your sentiment. I sympathize. The joy of being free from my abuser and trust me that still is hard for me to say is that she is trapped as a narcissist and forever will be. They are dangerous and destructive.
Definitely not funny, it can be quite dangerous, and it is very destructive. Hope you’re healing well, FRiend. The article mentions ‘isolating’ (the victim) as another manipulative tool.
@Kid - there’s not a real clear line (differential) btwn BPD & NPD. Some therapists say BPD “feels like this” and NPD “feels like that”. IOW, they’re calling it by gut.
Generally, NPD’s are more charming (at first, before the mask comes off), and are less likely than BPD’s to seek counseling.
This subject is particularly germane to the FR community because (I have found, anyway) there are spot on parallels btwn liberals and narcissists. (more in profile)