Posted on 10/10/2017 1:22:17 PM PDT by iowamark
Too bad he couldn’t have understood, we are not of this world. Possibly, he could have dealt with his feelings of the same, had he realized we’re all in the same boat and this is simply a proving ground.
Oh my Jesus, forgive us our sins. Save us from the fires of hell. Lead all souls to heaven. Especially those most in need of thy mercy. Amen.
My husband spent his last summer going to every reunion, party, wedding. He was so up!! It was a joy to spend all that fun time with him. Then, in Sept when there was more rain than parties, he left us. Our boys and I call the summer of ‘14 “Dad’s Farewell Tour”. He got to see everyone who was important to him, and he let them think his was a wonderful life. It really was...I wish he’d stuck around for the second act.
So Sorry for your loss.
I’m very sorry to hear about your husband. One who spent many years in the mental health field, I think I worried most about potential suicide in the people we worked with. Objectively, many had so much going for them and to live for, but occasionally just about the time we thought we had them convinced of those facts they would go right ahead and end it all. We would tell ourselves “if they want to do it there’s nothing you can do to stop them”, and while maybe that was a bit to try to make ourselves feel not so bad about what had happened, sadly in many cases it seemed simply the tragic truth.....
Loss grief from suicide is rough...so much false guilt to deal with. Her journey will be long, and will be never ending. We do not fully heal from our loss. With faith and support, however, we do come to a life filled again with peace and purpose!
God Bless, Delilah. You are in the thoughts and prayers of many.
Thank you. Las Vegas discussion on the Book of Faces involving some younger family members. They seemed to think that not having access to guns would have changed the outcome. I informed them that they do not know enough about suicide to make that assessment,and all they know about guns is:guns are bad! We must take them away. They don’t know that there were at least 3 other ways he could have done.
They don’t know that, before my tragic boating accident, I inherited an almost obscene amount of things that go boom. My boating skills suck! I also informed them that mine is the only voice for my husband, -and he would be so ticked that he was being used as a statistic. I told them, NOT privately because I want people to learn more about suicide and how the survivors should be treated, how hurtful their posts were. As sometimes really happens, we all took the classy way and the posts were deleted.
They don’t know that I had the gun destroyed, my hubby was so considerate that he used a registered but unknown to me Saturday night special. I’m the only one with registered handguns-I was (and still do) carry one every day, and my other one... he left the safes open and made sure that my pistol was the first thing I saw...so that I knew, even before he had been found, that he protected me. Silly sweet man, he even called me to tell me where to send the cops, he stayed on the phone withme long enough to know I would be in another county... 911 records come in very handy, all so I wouldn’t come under suspicion.
Wow!! Sorry to use the thread as a couch, sometimes it just bubbles out. Now, I must get back to studying my sea charts, looking for that stash!
My neighbor across the street did it in the garage with carbon monoxide sometime during the day. My wife and his wife pulled into the driveways at the same time. But they didn’t have an automatic garage door opener so this wife parked in the driveway and opened the door by hand. They had only been married about 6 months. He was a recovering alcoholic and gambler. She was a sheltered girl and heavy set and this was probably the first guy she ever really dated. It was pretty sad.
“No parent should bury a child. It is not the natural order of life.”
Bad enuf when you lose one to an accident...Suicide has to be incomprehensible for a parent...
Recall the folks at the hospital asking if we wanted someone for ‘grief consultation’..Told them we were Christians and none was needed....
Thank you.
I am so sorry for your loss, litehaus.
Certainly, right after the loss is no time to ask. Hospitals were a little behind the curve on handling the bereaved immediately after the loss. I have worked with a couple, including the one where my son lost his life.
Blessings to you...
It’s pretty clear that whatever demons took your husband, he cared for and about you deeply - that’s something to hold on to always....
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